Belly Touching... It's ok to say no!

Hello Muggles!!!

If you've ever been pregnant or at least been around pregnant people, you probably know what I am going to tell you. As soon as people hear the word pregnant, your belly becomes a magnet for unwanted touching. Now some people really don't mind. Others ((like myself)) don't care for being touched, and that's ok too!

One thing I think that people really just don't comprehend and I really don't know why is if it's inappropriate to do when a woman isn't pregnant, how much more so is it not ok when she is!! If a woman wasn't pregnant, you would just grab her stomach. It's weird, uncomfortable, bizarre, inappropriate and a slew of other adjectives. Why try to touch the baby before it comes out? You're not touching the baby, you're touching the woman that's pregnant. Doesn't matter what's in her belly. When I wasn't pregnant, I had quesadillas in my belly all the time!! Do you want to feel those? No!!! 

Now I personally, do not like to be touched really. Ma Muggle Makeup Geek,is supppper touchy feely whereas Daddy Muggle Makeup Geek was more standoffish and I definitely gravitate more towards Dad's side of the family. I have to know someone for an obscenely long time or have an instant connection with them before I am comfortable giving any type of affection. The most awkward part of feeling this way is when I am at church and people are very huggy. You have to hug the people that want hugs but you don't always know who those people are and it gives off the illusion that I am huggy when if I had it my way I'd pretty much just give everyone hand shakes except my close friends. It's just one of those social conducts that you have to go off other peoples cues.

Now, I am not opposed to belly touching, but because my immune system is crap to begin with, I'd much rather not be touched. I am however opposed to belly rubbing/shaking ((but that's a different story)). My biggest pet peeve right now is belly touching, simply because I was/am overweight and not showing. So when people are grabbing my belly, they're literally grabbing my belly. Mr Muggle Makeup Geek had his hand on my belly last night and you really have to kind of push down to feel where the baby is because I have extra flub to love. Once I am seriously bumping, a touch here or there probably won't bother me that much but I really don't know how I am going to feel at that time.... It isn't going to stop me from getting ever single t-shirt that says not to touch me. :)

The big thing is, if you feel uncomfortable, it's you're right to feel that way and you need to say something. In a perfect world every mother would be able to make a public service announcement that played on repeat whether or not they were comfortable with it or not. HAHA! Sadly we have to pretty much keep it at an individual basis. What I did was tell people in advance if I was comfortable with them touching my stomach. 

So basically, it's your body. If you don't want someone touching you, you don't have to tolerate it. Speak up for yourself. :)

Thanks for reading!!!